We all got together and wrote some words to capture just a little bit of what dad meant to us...
Our Dad
Our dad was the best dad on earth. Granted, we're somewhat partial, but seriously, we KNOW our dad was the best dad. We know this because he could not have been a better dad, could not have been more supportive, more active and involved. He set the example of outstanding parenting, and also set the bar very high on how to be a great human being. We weren't born into a family of monetary riches, but we were raised with a Bill Gates-size foundation of love.
There are lots of things my dad was good at...carpentry, cooking, camping, helping build a model airplane, volunteering, getting involved and helping whereever needed...
But the things he was best at were: husband, father, grandfather, brother, uncle, friend...
As a parent, how many of us have been asked by our child, "can you play with me?" and our response might be "not right now honey, I'm paying the billes"...this is something our dad never said. He would have immediately set aside his project and come to play, or help, or advise. Playing ping pong, working in the yard, or helping with the school science project, he was always there and always supportive. He and mom attended countless band concerts, flute recitals and softball games, acted as leaders in support organizations such as the band boosters and the committee to save our high school which was threatened with shutdown. Dad continued volunterring and working tirelessly for what he believed in, his entire life.
Our family took tremendous annual camping trips - precious quality time with family - no TVs, no distractions; fishing, swimming, boating, horse-back riding, roasted marshmallows around the campfire and hikes in the Grand Canyon. Our childhood friends were envious, they know how lucky we were, and sometimes we even brought extra kids along. These infamous family trips were great adventures which build great life-long memories for all, and also taught us an appreciation of and desire to see the natural beauty of this country. We remain avid hikers, campers and lovers of the outdoors.
Dad was somewhat of a perfectionist (if ever anyone question this - take a look at his house and car!), yet he never expected that of others, as he was non-judgmental, accepting and patient. But through his example of hard work and thoroughness, he taught us to take pride in a job well done, in always giving your best no matter what the task or project, from washing the car, doing the dishes, or rebuilding a car. Apply yourself, be persistent and work hard. this work ethic and attitude, more than a college education, is what truly builds a successful life.
Some kids are kept in line out of fear of punishment. Our biggest fear was disappointing dad! What made us work hard, was not a fear of punishment, but rather, not wanting to see a look of disappointment on Dad's face. As parents now, we all hope we can have such influence.
Dad's attitude since his diagnosis more than a year ago has, as always, been somewhere between great and awe-inspiring, drawing comments from friends, neighbors, clinic staff and just about anyone he has encountered. Everyone liked him, he was always kind and pleasant to be around, even in the face of painful surgeries, miserable treatments, and lots of needles. Though hi might be suffering, he never failed to be kind and considerate to all.
It has been said that the best way to earn respect is to show respect. Dad really personified that thought, never failing to show respect when it was due, and frequently even when it wasn't.
Dad was a tremendous person and an inspiration to many. His impact is certainly widespread, and will last for generations. We can draw on memories of him whenever we need guidance on how best to handle any situation. We are very lucky and blessed to have known him. We like to think that some of that has rubbed off on the rest of us. Sure hope so, because the world would be a fantastic place if we all could BE LIKE DAD!
